Xavy & Mom

Bisaya mom. Drama fan. Figuring it out one episode at a time.

Category: Parenting

2014 10 secret mom confessions
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Mom Confessions Nobody Says Out Loud (2014)

Every mom has thought at least one of these. Probably more. Nobody tells you that motherhood comes with a running list of thoughts you’d never say out loud. Not because you’re a bad mom — but because you’re a human one. I came across this survey from Parenting.com and felt seen by more than a few of these. No personal commentary this time. The confessions speak for themselves. The following is based on survey results from Parenting.com. Confession #1: Mom

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Xavy's Mom 03.02.2014 No Comments
2014 10 single mom secrets
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10 Single Mom Secrets That Actually Helped Me (2014)

You figure it out as you go. But having a map helps. One of the fears I carried into solo parenting was the weight of it all — keeping it together, holding everything in place, and somehow raising Xavy into someone good. Will he respect women? Will he understand that choices have consequences? Will I be enough? Too many questions. So I went looking for answers, the way I usually do, and found this list from Parenting.com on ten things

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Xavy's Mom 01.02.2014 2 Comments
2014 growing up without a dad
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Growing Up Without a Dad — And Choosing to Be Different (2014)

An absent father doesn’t have to define you. Sometimes it makes you better. Right around the time I was sitting with the reality of Xavy growing up without his dad around, I came across this piece written by Jeff Zelaya. It’s written from a son’s perspective — a boy who grew up without a father, carried the weight of that absence into his early adulthood, and eventually made a decision to become something different. I shared it then because it

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Xavy's Mom 24.01.2014 No Comments
2014 how dads affect kids
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How Dads Affect Kids — Even Absent Ones (2014)

A father’s absence is not neutral. It leaves something behind too. When Xavy’s dad left, one of the things I kept turning over in my mind was what it would mean for Xavy growing up. Not just practically — who picks him up, who pays for his school — but the deeper question of what a child carries when his father isn’t there. I found this piece and couldn’t stop thinking about it. I’m sharing it here because it said

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Xavy's Mom 23.01.2014 No Comments