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The Solo Parent’s ReadMe File

Essential Documentation for the “Triple Life” OS If you’ve ever downloaded a new piece of software or joined a project on GitHub, the first thing you look for is the README.md. It tells you what the project does, how to install it, and—most importantly—what to do when it inevitably breaks. As a solo parent juggling an IT career, freelance gigs, and a teenager in the province, I realized I’ve never actually published my own documentation. New people enter my life

Xavy's Mom 18.03.2026 No Comments

Parenting

How We Prepped for RTPM Science High (2025)

J and I are both RTPM Science High alumni. So when it came time to think about high school for Xavy, there wasn’t much deliberation. That was the school. That had always been the school. What I didn’t fully account for was how much work getting him there would actually take — or how little time we’d end up having to do it. We started reviewing less than a month before the exam. I know. Not ideal. But between school,

Xavy's Mom 27.05.2025 No Comments

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Covid19 Vaccination for Kids (Xavy)

Vaccination for kids aged 5 – 12 started last month. As of writing, Pfizer is the only authorized vaccine for this age bracket. I got the Johnson & Johnson shot last July, about a month after I got Covid19. I also had Moderna for my booster shot last December. Xavy and I are both asthmatic. When I got Covid19, my asthma was not that bad however I struggled so much with anxiety. Xavy however used to have worse attacks when

Xavy's Mom 04.03.2022 No Comments

Government

Getting a Solo Parent ID

Mabibilang lang siguro the number of people who really want to become solo parents right from the start. Majority of the millions of solo parents (there’s about 14 million solo parents in the country, according National Institutes of Health data) probably became solo parents because of the various circumstances in their lives, and not by choice. Being a solo parent is a huge task – my favorite line most days is “fuck my life”. There’s just no end to it. When

Xavy's Mom 12.04.2018 No Comments

Parenting

Financial support from Xavy’s dad

So I just wanna clear things out about getting financial support from Xavy’s dad. Coz some of his friends and family seem to think he’s being “responsible” and all and I am the one keeping his son away from him. Although yes, I don’t want Xavy growing up with the kind of environment his family has so as much as possible, I don’t want any influences from them on my son. I’m going to start off with the month he

Xavy's Mom 22.05.2015 No Comments

Solo Mom Recharges in Dumaguete (2015)

Sometimes the most responsible thing you can do is stop for an hour. Two jobs, one child, and the constant background noise of trying to keep everything running — there are days when the weight of it just accumulates and you hit a wall. Not a dramatic collapse, just a quiet, bone-deep exhaustion where everything feels like too much. I used to feel guilty about those moments. I’ve learned to treat them as a signal instead. My usual reset: Grand

Xavy's Mom 05.04.2015 8 Comments

The Real Struggles of Being a Single Mom (2014)

Some days, getting through it is the only plan you have. Those few days were brutal. I was juggling three jobs at the same time — one full-time, two online — and Xavy’s father was sending only ₱5,000 a month, which wasn’t even half of what Xavy actually needed. That month he was weeks late with it too, which pushed everything to the edge. At one point I had ₱200 left and Xavy’s milk and diapers were only going to

Xavy's Mom 03.07.2014 No Comments

Life Lessons

What to Expect at 14 Months Old (2014)

Fourteen months is when they discover the word “no” — and use it constantly. Xavy turned 14 months old and I found myself equal parts amazed and exhausted. He was into everything — cabinets, stairs, anything he wasn’t supposed to touch. The “no” had already arrived, loud and frequent, and I was still figuring out how to respond to it without losing my mind. I looked up what was supposed to be happening developmentally at this stage and found this

Xavy's Mom 05.02.2014 No Comments

Life Lessons

Mom Confessions Nobody Says Out Loud (2014)

Every mom has thought at least one of these. Probably more. Nobody tells you that motherhood comes with a running list of thoughts you’d never say out loud. Not because you’re a bad mom — but because you’re a human one. I came across this survey from Parenting.com and felt seen by more than a few of these. No personal commentary this time. The confessions speak for themselves. The following is based on survey results from Parenting.com. Confession #1: Mom

Xavy's Mom 03.02.2014 No Comments

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