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Do Narcissists Suffer After a Breakup? Spoiler Alert: It’s Complicated!

We’ve all seen the memes, the TikToks, the whispered tales of the ex who just couldn’t let go. You know, the one who’s still subtweeting about you six months later, or the one who’s suddenly “found religion” and is posting inspirational quotes every five minutes. Yes, we’re talking about the narcissist. So, the burning question: do they actually suffer after a breakup? Or are they just putting on a show for their next victim… I mean, admirer? The Short Answer:

Xavy's Mom 31.03.2025 No Comments

Betrayal

My Three-Month Fling with Mr. “Separated” (and a Whole Lotta Red Flags)

Okay, buckle up buttercup, because this is a story for the ages. A few years ago, I did something incredibly dumb: I fell for a narcissist. And not just any narcissist, but a married, manipulative, gaslighting narcissist who worked in the same office as me. Face palm. Let’s rewind. It all started innocently enough (or so I thought). He was a manager in another department, and we initially clashed over some new policies. But then, he started working his magic.

Xavy's Mom 06.03.2025 No Comments

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Kailan ba “tama na” ang “tama na”?

Someone once asked me, how do you know when it’s time to let go? Kailan mo malalaman na tama na, kung kailan mo ba bibitawan ang pag-asang may patutunguhan pa ang lahat? Kung wala na yung dating tiwala nyo sa isa’t isa. Kung wala na yung respect na meron kayo para sarili at sa relasyon ninyo. Kung may iba na sya, iba na yung nagpapa-ngiti sa kanya. Kung hindi mo na kilala yung ikaw, yung ubos ka na. Sa sobrang

Xavy's Mom 16.06.2018 No Comments

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Coffee mumbles

Today I took a quick look at the ex’s (the most recent ex) Facebook profile. I got curious after seeing him at the intersection near the office. I already knew he was in town, a common friend told me the other week. God I hate it when common friends tell me news about him. I told myself that it was going to a quick look only. And I lied. I dug deeper into the post and the comments. :D Photos of him and

Xavy's Mom 17.04.2018 No Comments

Betrayal

Relationships, affairs and infidelity.

“Don’t do unto others what you don’t want done unto you.” – Confucius I’ve always believed that karma exists. Sometimes not as fast as you wanted it but still, it’s there, sulking in the dark and just waiting for the right moment. Which is why if I do something really drastic I always take into consideration if I would be okay if someone did the same thing to me. I’m no saint, I’m a bitch most of the time. But

Xavy's Mom 06.04.2018 No Comments

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Day 218: Am I Finally Moving On? (2014)

Moving on isn’t a moment. It’s a slow, quiet accumulation of days. Seven months, six days. Two hundred and eighteen days since the worst breakup I’ve ever been through. I’ve asked myself a thousand times since then whether I’ve actually moved on. Today felt like a good day to ask again. I blame Jason Mraz — specifically his newest album, the one full of love songs. I put it on and braced myself. Listened to Love Someone and waited to

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2014 day 58 setting boundaries acceptance

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Day 58: Setting Boundaries and Learning to Accept (2014)

Acceptance doesn’t mean it stops hurting. It just means you stop waiting for things to be different. Breaking up is hard enough on its own. Breaking up when you have a child together is a different kind of hard — one that doesn’t let you cut contact cleanly or heal in a straight line. You still have to communicate. You still have to show up. And you have to figure out how to do all of that while carrying the

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2014 nine things to never do after a breakup

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Nine Things to Never Do After a Breakup (2014)

Some of these I followed. Some I didn’t. All of them made me think. It’s no secret that Xavy’s dad and I broke up after he cheated. I’d replayed the whole thing in my head more times than I could count, running through every what-if, every moment I might have missed. It didn’t change anything. The pain was still there regardless. So I did what I usually do — I read. A lot. And somewhere in the middle of all

Xavy's Mom 22.01.2014 No Comments

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Day 42: Moving On, For Real This Time (2014)

Sometimes moving on looks less like healing and more like just doing the next thing. Moving on, for real this time. I don’t really have a choice. He’s moved on and seems happy with where he is now. And no matter what I do, nothing will change the decision he’s already made — including the one to leave his son behind. That part I’ve had to sit with. If he’s capable of walking away from Xavy, then that tells me

Xavy's Mom 15.01.2014 No Comments

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