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Day 41: When Reality Finally Kicks In (2014)

There is no skipping this part. You just have to go through it. It’s been over a month. I’ve read more articles on getting through a breakup than I care to count, and none of them made it easier. There is no shortcut. There’s just the process, and you either go through it or you don’t. I’m on the part now where I’ve accepted there’s no going back. The reality that he has moved on — that he chose someone

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2013: The Worst Year That Made Me Stronger (2014)

Some years break you. This was that year. It seems like such a long time ago — him insisting I open the laptop so I could see what his gift was. Now all I have are the good memories. And sometimes that’s the hardest part. 2013 was the year everything I thought was stable quietly fell apart. By the time December came around, I was sitting with a separation, a newborn, a legal process just beginning, and eighteen days’ worth

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Day 18: On Letting Go (2013)

You Know You Have to Let Go. That Doesn’t Make It Easier. Saying goodbye is always a sad story, even when it’s the right one. Despite everything — the pain, the betrayal, all the reasons that made leaving the only sensible option — there were still good moments. That’s the part nobody warns you about. You don’t just miss the person. You miss the moments. And then something small catches you off guard — a song, a place, a stranger

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Day 17: 28 Ways to Move On (2013)

28 Things to Stop and Start Doing When You’re Ready to Move On Yesterday I admitted I missed him. Today I’m trying to do something about it. I’ve been looking for something practical to hold on to — not the kind of advice that tells you to just be strong or keep your chin up, but actual things to do and stop doing while you’re in the thick of it. I found this list and it felt close enough to

Xavy's Mom 21.12.2013 1 Comment

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Day 16: Okay, I Admit I Miss Him (2013)

There Are No Shortcuts to This Part Sixteen days in, and I’ll admit it — I miss him. I’ve been thinking about him more than I’d like to. No one told me it was going to be easy, and I knew from the start it wouldn’t be. A crappy situation was always going to feel like a crappy situation, at least for a while. Missing someone, crying it out — that’s just part of it. There are no shortcuts through

Xavy's Mom 20.12.2013 1 Comment

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Day 6: Finding Help as a Solo Mom (2013)

Where to Turn When You Don’t Know Where to Start Six days after Xavy’s dad and I split, I made one phone call that pointed me in the right direction. Here’s what I learned about GWAVE Dumaguete. Our HR at work — someone who had quietly become like a mother figure to me over the years — was one of the first people I turned to when I didn’t know where to start. She was the one who suggested I

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When Karma Shows Up Right on Time (2013)

When the Person Who Judged You Becomes the Proof It turned out that he had been seeing someone close to both of us — someone who, not too long before, had called me substandard. That word had stayed with me. And now here we were. Amazingly, it didn’t hurt as much as it probably should have. Maybe because it wasn’t the first time. Maybe because somewhere along the way I had already quietly accepted what kind of person I was

Xavy's Mom 04.12.2013 1 Comment

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