There Is a Way Through — Even When You Can’t See It Yet
About a month after the split, I was still in the thick of it. Still missing him. Still trying to figure out how to function normally while carrying something heavy underneath everything I did.
I came across this article during one of those nights and it said what I couldn’t quite put into words yet. I’m keeping it here — partly as a reminder to myself, and partly because if you’re going through something similar, maybe it’ll help you too.
The following is an article from Just My Type that I found and wanted to share. It’s not something I wrote, but it’s something I needed to read.
Eat Healthy
Some people deal with depression by over-eating. I went the other way — I had no appetite and basically stopped feeding myself properly. Once I started eating well again, my mood and energy slowly followed. Our physical health is more connected to our emotional state than we sometimes want to admit.
Surround Yourself with People Who Love You
The instinct is to isolate. To process alone. But pulling away from the people who love you is probably the worst thing you can do during this time. Community helps. Talking helps. Let the people who care about you show up for you.
Allow Yourself to Mourn
The pain of a breakup can feel shameful, especially if you pride yourself on being strong. But everything you’re feeling is normal. The emotions have to go somewhere — not releasing them just means they come back later in worse forms. Allow yourself to cry. Tears are just pain leaving the body.
Be the Right One
It’s tempting to use a rebound or a distraction to fast-forward through the hurt. But that only covers it up. Use this time to reflect — on yourself, your habits, what you want. If you’re not the right one for yourself yet, it’s harder to attract the right one for you.
Forgive
Forgiving him was one thing. Forgiving myself turned out to be harder. I was so critical of my own choices, my own blind spots. But slowly, with time and writing and small acts of self-care, I found compassion — for him and for myself. Forgiveness isn’t something you give the other person. It’s something you give yourself.
Appreciate
Gratitude sounds like a cliché until you actually practice it. Even in the middle of loss, there is still so much around you worth noticing. Write down what you’re grateful for. Not because it erases the pain, but because it slowly shifts where your attention goes.
And if none of it feels possible yet, hold on to this:
“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”
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