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Daily Ramblings

Teenage Crushes & Curfews: My Son’s Dating Life (and My Gray Hairs)

Okay, folks, buckle up. We’re diving into uncharted territory: my teenage son’s love life. Or, well, the budding stages of it, anyway. Let’s be real, as a single parent, this whole “my kid is dating” thing is throwing me for a loop. I mean, wasn’t he just building Lego spaceships yesterday? Suddenly, we’re talking about curfews, “friends” who text late at night, and the mysterious disappearance of all the good snacks in the house. Yep, my son’s officially entered the

Xavy's Mom 14.03.2025 No Comments

Daily Ramblings

Nah, You’re Not Crazy: Surviving Gaslighting

Hey everyone, let’s chat about something that’s way too common: gaslighting. It’s when someone manipulates you into questioning your own reality. Think of it like a really annoying “mind game,” and honestly, it’s not fun. First off, if you’re feeling confused, doubting your own memory, or constantly apologizing, you’re not alone. Hindi ka nag-iisa. You might be getting gaslighted, and it’s time to take your power back. 1. Recognize the Signs: “Wait, ano daw?” Gaslighting isn’t always obvious. It can

Xavy's Mom 11.03.2025 No Comments

Daily Ramblings

Ay, Pagod Na! Your Chill Guide to Beating Work Burnout

Okay, let’s be honest. We’ve all been there. You know that feeling? When your “to-do” list looks like a never-ending scroll, your inbox is a monster, and even the smell of your favorite coffee can’t spark joy. You’re burnt out. Like, totally burnt out. “Ay, pagod na!” That’s the Tagalog way of putting it, and it hits the nail right on the head. In Bisaya, you might say, “Kapoy na kaayo!”. No matter the language, the feeling is universal. So,

Xavy's Mom 10.03.2025 No Comments

Betrayal

My Three-Month Fling with Mr. “Separated” (and a Whole Lotta Red Flags)

Okay, buckle up buttercup, because this is a story for the ages. A few years ago, I did something incredibly dumb: I fell for a narcissist. And not just any narcissist, but a married, manipulative, gaslighting narcissist who worked in the same office as me. Face palm. Let’s rewind. It all started innocently enough (or so I thought). He was a manager in another department, and we initially clashed over some new policies. But then, he started working his magic.

Xavy's Mom 06.03.2025 No Comments

Daily Ramblings

Dating a “strong, independent woman”.

I’ve never had a serious relationship since X’s dad and I broke up. I have to be honest, it was a nasty break-up and it took me several years before I could finally say “I’m okay”. It took me a while not because I still loved my ex but because I was just too busy looking for my nawawalang self-esteem and solo parenting at the same time. Yes, there were a few guys I went out with a few years

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Gaslighted? Now what?

Moving on after enduring the emotional turmoil of gaslighting is a courageous journey towards reclaiming one’s identity and rebuilding a shattered sense of self. Gaslighting, a form of psychological manipulation that distorts reality, leaves victims questioning their perceptions and self-worth. However, the path to healing is marked by resilience and self-compassion. The first crucial step in moving on is acknowledging the reality of the gaslighting experience. Trust your instincts and validate your emotions, recognizing that the manipulation was not a

Xavy's Mom 21.11.2023 No Comments

Health Corner

Multivitamin gummies for your kids

Choosing the right multivitamin for your toddlers can be exhausting. Oh well, it was for me anyways. Xavy is very picky when it comes to what he eats, like for real. To give you an idea, he does not like candies, sodas, juices, cakes and he will only have a little of the ice cream and chocolates. So yes, when it comes to vitamins, it was a difficult search. The ones that stuck around for us were Kirkland Signature Children’s

Xavy's Mom 17.01.2019 No Comments

Breakup Diaries

Kailan ba “tama na” ang “tama na”?

Someone once asked me, how do you know when it’s time to let go? Kailan mo malalaman na tama na, kung kailan mo ba bibitawan ang pag-asang may patutunguhan pa ang lahat? Kung wala na yung dating tiwala nyo sa isa’t isa. Kung wala na yung respect na meron kayo para sarili at sa relasyon ninyo. Kung may iba na sya, iba na yung nagpapa-ngiti sa kanya. Kung hindi mo na kilala yung ikaw, yung ubos ka na. Sa sobrang

Xavy's Mom 16.06.2018 No Comments

Daily Ramblings

Fall in love, bittersweet love.

Just because it was bittersweet, it doesn’t mean it wasn’t love. When you love, it doesn’t necessarily mean it has to have a happy ending. We’ve watched too many Disney movies that we want all love stories to have that “they lived happily-ever-after” kind of ending. But life sucks and there’s really nothing we can do about it. Sometimes when we love, we know we’d eventually end up hurting but heck we still love. Sorry I just finished watching Midnight

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